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“Someone who Understands” – New XXXChurch.com Article

Jan 13th

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Here is my current article on the XXXChurch called “Someone who Understands”. It’s under the Couple’s section of the blog. Or you can just read it below…

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Someone Who Understands

By Chris Kozacek on Jan 11, 10 at 07:20 PM | Share This | Comments (1)

My wife and I have a 19-month-old boy.

He is just starting the throwing tantrums and taking swings at people stage, and gets really frustrated when he doesn’t get what he wants. Man it sucks when he throws a tantrum or takes a swing at you. And it’s even more embarrassing when it happens in public. We love him so much, but it’s still a bummer part of this stage.

So we got to talking with another Mom of a toddler in our church. And she started talking about how her daughter was doing some of the very same things our boy was doing.

And there it was…

Someone who understands.

Someone who knows what you are going through.

And that’s what we need… at least someone who has been in your shoes. Someone who has felt and experienced what you have thought, felt and been through.

And it got me thinking about all of this too…

But not just for those of us who struggle with porn and sexual vices. No, there are also those who are affected because of us – who don’t feel like anyone understands. I’ve been grateful for a few of the wives/girlfriends who have been honest enough with us to say, “I don’t feel like anyone understands what I am going through, and what we are going through together. I feel like all of my friends have husbands/boyfriends who don’t struggle. Or at least they don’t talk about it.”

You want to know that someone understands.

That someone has been there… or is there.

You want to know there is hope. There is light amidst the dark.

That you are not the only one who has ever experienced this…

… that you are not alone.

We’re out there. Find someone who can walk with you. Find people, who are or have been there. I promise others are out there. There are others like us. Not everyone hides their stuff. And if they don’t have stuff in this area, I bet they can at least understand what it’s like to struggle with something – if not point you in the direction of someone who does understand. And if they don’t understand or don’t struggle with anything… um, sure!
Glad to be part of a community here that understands…

… it’s nice to not be alone.

Don’t struggle in silence. I don’t believe God ever intended us to struggle in silence and isolation.

We’re here…

HE is here.

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My new XXXChurch.com article… “Let’s be honest… We aren’t happy or fulfilled”

Nov 10th

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My new XXXChurch.com article… “Let’s be honest… We aren’t happy or fulfilled”.

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LET’S BE HONEST

By Chris Kozacek on Mon, Nov 9th 09 at 09:21PM | Permalink | Comments (2)

Week after week you hope to come up with a profound and griping post to submit to be placed on here…

But how often do we truly sit down and think about our story – The ups and downs of battle with pornography addiction.

How often do we step back…

…and realize the impact of our choices.

But don’t stop with looking at it in a “I should behave better” way, but go beyond to look at it in a holistic way. Go beyond the explanation of “just another bad night” or “I don’t have a problem, it doesn’t happen that often” or “I’m human, not Jesus”…

…to “why is the part of my life?”

Let’s be honest – it’s fun while it lasts (we wouldn’t do it if it wasn’t – we like looking at stuff). But it always ends, and we aren’t happy or fulfilled. You know that’s true…

You ask, “how did I get here?”, “I know better, why doesn’t that stop me?”, “What hole is it filling in my heart and mind? “

Now step back – Do you see the face, and heart, of… —READ MORE—

Links:

- XXXChurch.com Blog

- Every Man’s Battle Blog

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“When your secrets are revealed” – XXXChurch Blog

Sep 15th

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Here’s a link to my second article on the XXXChurch.com blog and Every Man’s Battle website. This one was placed under the Pastor’s section of the blog.

Click below to view the “When your secrets are revealed” article –

Thank you all for you thoughts, comments and encouragement with all this. I’m excited to be writing, but it’s a little scary being so vulnerable…

*** I’d also like to thank my wife Corrie, and currently my other 3 editors – Jeremy, Brandon and Cory. They are such a help in editing and asking questions about each article that is posted… before it is posted. Thank you so much!