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“Someone who Understands” – New XXXChurch.com Article

Jan 13th

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Here is my current article on the XXXChurch called “Someone who Understands”. It’s under the Couple’s section of the blog. Or you can just read it below…

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Someone Who Understands

By Chris Kozacek on Jan 11, 10 at 07:20 PM | Share This | Comments (1)

My wife and I have a 19-month-old boy.

He is just starting the throwing tantrums and taking swings at people stage, and gets really frustrated when he doesn’t get what he wants. Man it sucks when he throws a tantrum or takes a swing at you. And it’s even more embarrassing when it happens in public. We love him so much, but it’s still a bummer part of this stage.

So we got to talking with another Mom of a toddler in our church. And she started talking about how her daughter was doing some of the very same things our boy was doing.

And there it was…

Someone who understands.

Someone who knows what you are going through.

And that’s what we need… at least someone who has been in your shoes. Someone who has felt and experienced what you have thought, felt and been through.

And it got me thinking about all of this too…

But not just for those of us who struggle with porn and sexual vices. No, there are also those who are affected because of us – who don’t feel like anyone understands. I’ve been grateful for a few of the wives/girlfriends who have been honest enough with us to say, “I don’t feel like anyone understands what I am going through, and what we are going through together. I feel like all of my friends have husbands/boyfriends who don’t struggle. Or at least they don’t talk about it.”

You want to know that someone understands.

That someone has been there… or is there.

You want to know there is hope. There is light amidst the dark.

That you are not the only one who has ever experienced this…

… that you are not alone.

We’re out there. Find someone who can walk with you. Find people, who are or have been there. I promise others are out there. There are others like us. Not everyone hides their stuff. And if they don’t have stuff in this area, I bet they can at least understand what it’s like to struggle with something – if not point you in the direction of someone who does understand. And if they don’t understand or don’t struggle with anything… um, sure!
Glad to be part of a community here that understands…

… it’s nice to not be alone.

Don’t struggle in silence. I don’t believe God ever intended us to struggle in silence and isolation.

We’re here…

HE is here.

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Steps: Asking for Forgivness (brokenbole.com)
My new XXXChurch.com article… “Let’s be honest… We aren’t happy or fulfilled” (brokenbole.com)
Fighting Porn Addiction…Online? (blogs.wsj.com)

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Steps: Asking for Forgivness

Oct 20th

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Here’s my new post for XXXChurch.com

Steps: Asking For Forgiveness

By Chris Kozacek on Mon, Oct 19th 09 at 09:21PM | Permalink | Comments (1)

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As I mentioned in my last post “When Your Secrets are Revealed…,” – I wanted to take a few looks at the practical things that might come out of it, in no particular order.

The questions that always come up (including the ones I asked) when talking about asking for forgiveness from those affected by our sin are:

-“What if they won’t forgive me?”
-“I didn’t do anything that bad, did I?”
-“Won’t bringing it back up just create more problems or conflict?”
-“I don’t know how to find them, so what should I do?”
-“They won’t even talk to me, so how can I ever try?”
-“They ruined my life by heaping all sorts of judgment and public condemnation on me and wouldn’t show me any mercy, so why should I ask for their forgiveness?”
-“It’s not like my struggle with porn ever really affected anyone else, what am I asking for forgiveness for?”
-“I’m scared to go to them, how do I even start?”

These are just a sample of questions I have either heard, or thought myself. Some are questions out of fear, some out of pride, and some are just not sure where to start.

It is never easy to go and ask for forgiveness from others – especially when… - read more

Links:

- XXXChurch.com Blog
– Every Man’s Battle Blog

“When your secrets are revealed” – XXXChurch Blog (brokenbole.com)
Aspects of Forgiveness (rluxemburg.com)
Understanding doesn’t result forgiveness (mgccl.com)
Behaviours That Build And Behaviours That Destroy (pastorpaulvbsblog.blogspot.com)
Awkward Moments Unlimited (24hourparadigm.com)

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“When your secrets are revealed” – XXXChurch Blog

Sep 15th

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Here’s a link to my second article on the XXXChurch.com blog and Every Man’s Battle website. This one was placed under the Pastor’s section of the blog.

Click below to view the “When your secrets are revealed” article –

Thank you all for you thoughts, comments and encouragement with all this. I’m excited to be writing, but it’s a little scary being so vulnerable…

*** I’d also like to thank my wife Corrie, and currently my other 3 editors – Jeremy, Brandon and Cory. They are such a help in editing and asking questions about each article that is posted… before it is posted. Thank you so much!

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Video: “Jesus Loves the Outcast”

Aug 21st

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To go along with the book – “Jesus Loves You… This I Know” by Craig Gross and Jason Harper – they put out some short videos on some different subjects of the book. (example: “Jesus loves the…”)

The first video I watched was on “Jesus loves the Outcast”. Here’s the description:

Pastor Jason Harper converses alongside Joe, who happens to be a homosexual. The two talk about openness and acceptance within the church, and what that looks like.

So, take a look at the video below. What thoughts come to mind after watching it? What feelings does it invoke? Other comments (respectful ones at least)?